The moment is a mountain to overcome in almost any relationship, but I believe it’s a mountain we, as Christians, can capture for the good of the daughter, the suitor, and the father.
But as good as ideal sounds, it’s hard to find that picture in the Bible, and ultimately it’s far too simple for most not-yet-married realities anyways. What if she’s still single at 25, 30, maybe even 40?
Not to mention sidestep a miserable marriage and an eventual court date with the divorce attorney! The reality is, he may be a solid, good guy on his own. The idea of "two becoming one" should not equal instant discomfort. ) to be very specific about the source of their concerns. Consider how the relationship might look ten years in the future. And yes, men do talk themselves into marrying the wrong girl.
The wise dads relish the opportunity to develop a real, intentional, grace-and-truth relationship with the man who might be tasked with caring for their daughter for the rest of her life.
In the first pages of Scripture, we find that great love story of Isaac and Rebekah.
I drive myself crazy thinking about all of this, but I bite my tongue. Distressed Mom DEAR DISTRESSED: Keep this idea in mind: Whenever you attempt to coach your daughter away from this man, what she hears is, “You’re so incapable of making good choices that you require my constant worry, omnipotent help, and guidance.” The harder you push her to leave, the more she will try to prove you wrong by staying.
If you stop trying to fix her, she may stop trying to fix him. One of his sisters is six months younger than me, and we have always gotten along. She freaks out if any of us don’t drop everything to help her. My fiance and I have helped her countless times, whether it be with her car, or her two sons, who are 1 and 2.